Maintaining Healthy Relationships Across Political Lines
Our world is increasingly polarized, with political differences often casting long shadows over our personal relationships. It’s a challenge to have conversations about differing political views without causing damage to friendships, family ties, or romantic partnerships, especially when we are overwhelmed with 24/7 media coverage and commentary. It feels like we can’t escape it! But there are ways to maintain healthy relationships despite differing political beliefs.
Before diving into solutions, it's crucial to acknowledge the challenges. Political beliefs are deeply personal, often tied to core values and identities. Disagreements can feel like personal attacks, triggering strong emotions. It's essential to recognize that your loved one is still the same person you care about, regardless of their political stance. This person was in your life before the political upheaval we are currently experiencing, so try and remember that person and relationship when you feel things getting heated.
Here are some ways you can protect your mental health AND maintain your relationships when discussing politics with family and friends:
Practice Active Listening: Open and honest communication is vital. However, this doesn’t mean endless debates. If you and the other person are both passionate about your beliefs, keep in mind that heated arguments won’t change anything. If you decide to have the conversation, practice active listening and give your loved one your undivided attention and try to understand their perspective without interrupting.
Show Empathy: Try and see the world through their eyes. What life has this person lived that has shaped their beliefs? Before your blood begins to boil, take a breath and ask yourself that question. Haven’t your experiences also shaped your beliefs? Keep that in mind. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it may help you reshape your approach to the conversation.
Don’t Use Personal Attacks: Express your feelings without blaming or accusing. Steer clear of labeling your loved one or their beliefs, or using hurtful language to describe them. This can be easier said than done when we are passionate about our own beliefs, or when the other person’s beliefs offend you. But if you choose to engage, make a commitment to not debase others by attacking them. Discuss specific policies or ideas rather than attacking the person.
If you find that the conversations you’re having aren’t going anywhere, it’s ok to disengage. Use “I” statements to set boundaries with this person by saying things like, “I feel really stressed out and upset by this conversation, and I would like to hit the pause button before we both get more upset.”
This acknowledges that you want to protect the relationship and that you care about the other person. If the relationship continues to cause you stress, try the following:
-Set boundaries and reiterate them as often as you need to
-Avoid over-consumption of media, as this can cause you lingering anxiety and trigger a poor response to political comments made by loved ones
-Find ways to practice daily self-care, like meditation, grounding yourself in nature or simply allowing yourself to have 15 uninterrupted minutes of solace with a cup of coffee or tea.
-Call us! We can help support you in your challenging relationships and manage your stress and anxiety
Building and maintaining relationships takes time and effort. Remember that political landscapes change, and people evolve. Focus on the long-term health of your relationship, and be patient.
Ultimately, the ability to maintain relationships across political divides is a testament to the strength of human connection. By practicing empathy, open communication, and respect, it’s possible to bridge even the widest gaps.
